The Meditation That Guarantees Failure and The Meditation That Guarantees Success in Life

My high school Spanish teacher use to tell the class,  "Your brain is like your body, if you don't exercise, it will get flabby."  Of course the Senora was referring to our lack of intellectual stimulation over summer break that resulted in an extensive review and schoolteacher frustration   She obviously thought we could and should have known more...I do the same thing with my kids.

Sitting in silence amidst my own thinking usually reveals to me why I need to sit longer amidst my own thinking.  At a primitive level, my thinking is flawed, and unless trained, it becomes flabby and weak, just like muscle...the Senora was correct.  Sitting in silence amidst my own thinking requires me to accept myself and the world just as it is, broken and wonderful altogether.  Resisting acceptance of the world and refusing to embrace it develops "Should-Be Meditation" (SBM).  This meditation involves a subconscious perseveration on the following thought:

 _________(Insert Situation, Person, Circumstance etc.)        should be _________________.

Chronic overuse of SBM results in "Should-Be Meditation Syndrome" (SBMS) and will manifest into issues such as overeating, addictions, depression, actions of hatred and more.  SBM is something we are born with; newborns usually come out kicking and screaming.  As we develop, either we allow SBM to overtake us with SBMS or we train our mind to not be flabby with SBM.  Everyone deals with this:  How many totally content people do you know in the world?  When circumstances are within our power to change, SBM can be very useful to provide motivation.  Unfortunately or fortunately, our power to change much in the world is limited which is why SBM guarantees failure.  Living with SBM seizes our thoughts, contracts our bodies and imprisons the mind.  It makes us fearful because we can't directly change circumstances and it leaves little mind space free to enjoy life as it is--broken and wonderful.    It's really hard to sit still with SBM and nearly impossible with SBMS.  The cure for SBM and SBMS is sitting still amidst our own thinking which usually reveals more SBM and requires more sitting still amidst our own thinking.  Perhaps you're thinking you should make time to sit still amidst your own thinking?

After years of practice, sitting still comes more naturally to me.  My mind and body actually crave long lengths of silence.  Growing to the place of craving stillness requires the meditation of gratitude.  It's essential to be grateful for the smallest little things.  The slower I live, the more grateful I become, savoring the extraordinary in the ordinary.  And for the meditation that guarantees success:

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.--Philippians 4:8
Yes, gratitude guarantees success!

Following the advice of my Spanish teacher, raising 4 children and not wanting their minds or muscles to become flabby, I continually have to put my SBM into check...am I expecting too much, should they have known more?  Sometimes hard to say.  Breathing in Philippians 4:8 I will sit still and accept them and others as they are--broken and wonderful altogether.  I hope you will join me in doing the same!
(By the way, I just invented SBM, but hope it soon goes viral :-) )